sensitiveness
"Get over it!"
"It happens and you should just move on."
"Oh cmon, life goes on."
...and quite a few phrases like these.
Apparently, a lot of my acquaintances and people in general are in favor of the idea behind these phrases. Whenever something goes wrong and one isn't feeling alright emotionally, many of us try to be the sole savior (okay maybe not sole but a major one) and exhaust himself/herself in convincing the victim that life goes on and you should also move on. Personally, I've always been opposed to such thoughts because I believe in feeling the emotion out until you get to the end of it. Feeling emotions is also a skill, people should realize, and not just something to glide by. When you say life goes on, where exactly are you trying to race to? Yes, I understand it depends on circumstances sometimes but then there are preferred priorities as well in moments like these. When I am surrounded by such acquaintances, the best option for me, as some of you might disagree, is to feel the emotion yourself, maybe share it with a very close friend or two and then make it public to others after you're over it.
Sharing of life experiences is vital. If one loses that respect of sharing with others, it all leads to diversion and avoidance. I believe people need people. We are social animals and are meant to interact. Hence, the construction of languages. And it's not a void that can be filled with food, parties, sex, family, hangouts etc. It's a void that needs a companion. Not to be absolute, not to feel complete by regarding the other one your significant other, and also not to depend on...but someone to BE with, walk with. Sometimes we mistake that be a romantically inclined relationship but it doesn't have to be. I believe this bond is, though less frequently socializing, but certainly even stronger. We need to understand that.
Alright, so much for being so philosophical. I just wish I wasn't this sensitive. OR better yet, perhaps I need some sleep.
"It happens and you should just move on."
"Oh cmon, life goes on."
...and quite a few phrases like these.
Apparently, a lot of my acquaintances and people in general are in favor of the idea behind these phrases. Whenever something goes wrong and one isn't feeling alright emotionally, many of us try to be the sole savior (okay maybe not sole but a major one) and exhaust himself/herself in convincing the victim that life goes on and you should also move on. Personally, I've always been opposed to such thoughts because I believe in feeling the emotion out until you get to the end of it. Feeling emotions is also a skill, people should realize, and not just something to glide by. When you say life goes on, where exactly are you trying to race to? Yes, I understand it depends on circumstances sometimes but then there are preferred priorities as well in moments like these. When I am surrounded by such acquaintances, the best option for me, as some of you might disagree, is to feel the emotion yourself, maybe share it with a very close friend or two and then make it public to others after you're over it.
Sharing of life experiences is vital. If one loses that respect of sharing with others, it all leads to diversion and avoidance. I believe people need people. We are social animals and are meant to interact. Hence, the construction of languages. And it's not a void that can be filled with food, parties, sex, family, hangouts etc. It's a void that needs a companion. Not to be absolute, not to feel complete by regarding the other one your significant other, and also not to depend on...but someone to BE with, walk with. Sometimes we mistake that be a romantically inclined relationship but it doesn't have to be. I believe this bond is, though less frequently socializing, but certainly even stronger. We need to understand that.
Alright, so much for being so philosophical. I just wish I wasn't this sensitive. OR better yet, perhaps I need some sleep.
posted by feveri at
3:09 AM
4 Comments:
Its quite alright to be sensitive don't you think?
I think I quite agree with your post. And I like what you say about feeling your emotions, it just might make us more aware of who you are. I think what most people mean by moving on, is not to actually allow your self to drown in self-pity forever.Anyway ...
Most of the time I am not very good at explaining such stuff so I might as well just shut up.
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Hira, at 4/08/2006 8:01 AM
hira - ahan, yeah being sensitive to an extent is okay. Yeah I understand what people really are saying when they're trying to get us thru something but then feeling an emotion doesn't mean that you're drowning yourself in self-pity forever. I'm not picking on you but just adding on to your thoughts...so yeah...
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feveri, at 4/10/2006 1:37 AM
Yeah ... thats what I said too. I was just pointing out what people might mean. And of course I won't take it as you picking on me or something.
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Hira, at 4/13/2006 2:40 AM
why dont you just stop being so over sensitive about casual statements, get over feeling bad, and move on by forgetting comments of anybody who has ever said one of those phrases to you :) :) :)
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Anonymous, at 4/17/2006 2:23 PM
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